Do people actually fall in love with the idea of being in love? Unfortunately, it is actually quite common.See the original article at
How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love
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Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
Friday, May 1, 2009
How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love
Do people actually fall in love with the idea of being in love? Unfortunately, it is actually quite common.See the original article at
How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Flirting Is Advertising Yourself - Apply These 8 Advertising Secrets To Your Dating Success
Flirting Is Advertising Yourself - Apply These 8 Advertising Secrets To Your Dating Success
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Advertisers use sex to sell products. Turn the tables by applying the secrets of product marketing, advertising and sales to your dating success.
Your every action is an advertisement of yourself. Be conscious of how you are presenting yourself, and gain that special somebody by following these tips:
1. Create a powerful and balanced ad. Begin with an aggressive opening and follow up with in-depth informative facts that both prove your point and are fully forthcoming. The first step in dating is to gain someone's attention - that's your headline - make it bold and powerful. Once you have grabbed their attention, drop the hyperbole, and communicate with scrupulously honesty - focusing on the relevant information, and avoiding distracting facts and stories.
2. Address the prospect's priorities. Reducing fear is everyone's highest priority, followed by meeting needs, then benefits, and finally features. For a car, examples of these four are: crash resistant, reliable, smooth shifting, and planar-inset transmission. For a man or woman seeking a partner, examples might be: committed, loving, sexy, and 38DD.
3. Play on both your prospect's emotions and on their needs. Generate excitement, but don't forget to address the practical also.
4. Emphasize convenience. You are here and now - take advantage of that
5. Offer real honest value. The huckster may make a sale, but the product will be returned. Good will is vital and irreplaceable.
6. Utilize testimonials. Having your friends speak on your behalf is surprisingly convincing
7. Create a call to action. Your objective is the "close" - the sale. Keep the end in mind.
8. Test and refine your ad campaign. When you meet with failure, change your tactic and try again, but never give up.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Advertisers use sex to sell products. Turn the tables by applying the secrets of product marketing, advertising and sales to your dating success.Your every action is an advertisement of yourself. Be conscious of how you are presenting yourself, and gain that special somebody by following these tips:
1. Create a powerful and balanced ad. Begin with an aggressive opening and follow up with in-depth informative facts that both prove your point and are fully forthcoming. The first step in dating is to gain someone's attention - that's your headline - make it bold and powerful. Once you have grabbed their attention, drop the hyperbole, and communicate with scrupulously honesty - focusing on the relevant information, and avoiding distracting facts and stories.
2. Address the prospect's priorities. Reducing fear is everyone's highest priority, followed by meeting needs, then benefits, and finally features. For a car, examples of these four are: crash resistant, reliable, smooth shifting, and planar-inset transmission. For a man or woman seeking a partner, examples might be: committed, loving, sexy, and 38DD.
3. Play on both your prospect's emotions and on their needs. Generate excitement, but don't forget to address the practical also.
4. Emphasize convenience. You are here and now - take advantage of that
5. Offer real honest value. The huckster may make a sale, but the product will be returned. Good will is vital and irreplaceable.
6. Utilize testimonials. Having your friends speak on your behalf is surprisingly convincing
7. Create a call to action. Your objective is the "close" - the sale. Keep the end in mind.
8. Test and refine your ad campaign. When you meet with failure, change your tactic and try again, but never give up.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Online Dating After Divorce - A Man’s Guide to Seeking Women, Finding Love, and Getting Married Again
Online Dating After Divorce - A Man’s Guide to Seeking Women, Finding Love, and Getting Married Again
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
You say you are looking for your next long term relationship - this time a really great lifelong partnership - but you are horny and you want to get laid - soon. STOP! That attitude is NOT going to lead you to a great long term relationship. Bank the fires of lust long enough to search consciously for someone with whom you are truly compatible.
Read more at
Online Dating after Divorce (a man's guide)
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Powerful Flirting Tips From an Unlikely Source - Apply These 13 Product Marketing Secrets To Your Dating Success
Powerful Flirting Tips From an Unlikely Source - Apply These 13 Product Marketing Secrets To Your Dating Success
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
What do product marketing, advertising and sales techniques have to do with your dating success? A lot more than you might guess.
Learn and apply these techniques to gain dating success:
1. Work from a plan, rather than just tactics. Be clear what you want and how you intend to get it before you begin.
2. Know your customer, your audience, your market. You are just shooting in the dark if you haven't determined who you are targeting. Be very clear exactly what sort of person you want to attract before you start advertising yourself.
3. Understand that people buy for selfish reasons. No one in their right mind is going to date you out of compassion. They will date you (buy your product) because they want something that you (your product) offer.
4. Determine your prospective customer's needs, and meet those needs. Pain avoidance is a much stronger motivation than pleasure seeking. People are more strongly driven by fear and need than by a quest for greater happiness. Identify and target your prospective partner's needs rather than his or her wants. Loneliness and insecurity are examples of needs that you can focus on meeting.
5. Create a powerful brand image that conveys a clear concise message. Think about Nike as an example. Nike's image is not sneakers, shoes, or even running shoes - Nike's image is healthy active engaging people in action. Apply this principle to your own "brand." What images and ideas do you want people to associate with you? Craft your own image, and live into it.
6. Be unique - don't copy your competitors - don't compare yourself to your competitors. While it is extremely common for low quality advertisers to declare their product cheaper, faster, sexier than their competition, the most successful companies (and daters) just pretend they don't even have competition - and in a sense, they don't. Again, think Nike. To the extent that they are selling an image rather than shoes, they truly aren't in competition with shoe companies. How are you uniquely special? Be proud of your unique qualities.
7. Believe in your product, don't fake enthusiasm. If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?
8. Love your customer, not your product - make their life better. If they feel loved and well served, they will buy your product.
9. Offer a free sample or trial but don't give away the store.
10. Build on "yes." Start with a small "yes," and move to bigger ones. "Yes, I'll be your friend," comes before and leads into a bigger "yes," and a yet bigger "yes."
11. Save price for last, but never forget that this is a sale, not a give-away. Remember to focus on the "close."
12. Use multiple channels to deliver your message. Don't rely solely on just face-to-face contact, or even on just word-of-mouth. Teaming with supportive friends can make the project easier and more pleasant. Also consider on-line dating and other resources. You don't have to do this alone.
13. Patience - persistence - perseverance. Stay in action, never give up. Sales of any kind is hard work. Selling yourself is no easier. They will come, they will stay. Believe in yourself and in your mission.
Never become so absorbed in chasing someone that you forget to maintain your standards. Don't catch someone you don't really want. Someone who is lonely and insecure is an easy catch, but are you sure you really want them?
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
What do product marketing, advertising and sales techniques have to do with your dating success? A lot more than you might guess.Learn and apply these techniques to gain dating success:
1. Work from a plan, rather than just tactics. Be clear what you want and how you intend to get it before you begin.
2. Know your customer, your audience, your market. You are just shooting in the dark if you haven't determined who you are targeting. Be very clear exactly what sort of person you want to attract before you start advertising yourself.
3. Understand that people buy for selfish reasons. No one in their right mind is going to date you out of compassion. They will date you (buy your product) because they want something that you (your product) offer.
4. Determine your prospective customer's needs, and meet those needs. Pain avoidance is a much stronger motivation than pleasure seeking. People are more strongly driven by fear and need than by a quest for greater happiness. Identify and target your prospective partner's needs rather than his or her wants. Loneliness and insecurity are examples of needs that you can focus on meeting.
5. Create a powerful brand image that conveys a clear concise message. Think about Nike as an example. Nike's image is not sneakers, shoes, or even running shoes - Nike's image is healthy active engaging people in action. Apply this principle to your own "brand." What images and ideas do you want people to associate with you? Craft your own image, and live into it.
6. Be unique - don't copy your competitors - don't compare yourself to your competitors. While it is extremely common for low quality advertisers to declare their product cheaper, faster, sexier than their competition, the most successful companies (and daters) just pretend they don't even have competition - and in a sense, they don't. Again, think Nike. To the extent that they are selling an image rather than shoes, they truly aren't in competition with shoe companies. How are you uniquely special? Be proud of your unique qualities.
7. Believe in your product, don't fake enthusiasm. If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?
8. Love your customer, not your product - make their life better. If they feel loved and well served, they will buy your product.
9. Offer a free sample or trial but don't give away the store.
10. Build on "yes." Start with a small "yes," and move to bigger ones. "Yes, I'll be your friend," comes before and leads into a bigger "yes," and a yet bigger "yes."
11. Save price for last, but never forget that this is a sale, not a give-away. Remember to focus on the "close."
12. Use multiple channels to deliver your message. Don't rely solely on just face-to-face contact, or even on just word-of-mouth. Teaming with supportive friends can make the project easier and more pleasant. Also consider on-line dating and other resources. You don't have to do this alone.
13. Patience - persistence - perseverance. Stay in action, never give up. Sales of any kind is hard work. Selling yourself is no easier. They will come, they will stay. Believe in yourself and in your mission.
Never become so absorbed in chasing someone that you forget to maintain your standards. Don't catch someone you don't really want. Someone who is lonely and insecure is an easy catch, but are you sure you really want them?
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Trying to Get Your Ex Back? A Look at the 10 Best and Worst Ways to Rekindle the Romance
Trying to Get Your Ex Back? A Look at the 10 Best and Worst Ways to Rekindle the Romance- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
They left. You're lonely, and they look pretty good right now. Should you even attempt to rekindle the romance? What are the best and worst ways to rebuild your connection?Read the rest of my article at
How to Get Your Ex Back
Most of the Dating Advice You Have Read is Dead Wrong - Jonthan Lockwood Huie
Guys are supposed to act confident, buy flowers, tell jokes. Gals are told to hang on his every word, flirt, be coy. Baloney! Why be a pretend you - an imitation you - instead of a real you? As Judy Garland said, "Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." Why are you dating? If you are dating because you like to go on first dates, then fine - just play the actor or actress - and enjoy an evening of make believe. However, if you are dating because you want someone in your life longer term, stop the play-acting and be yourself.
The role-playing is completely counterproductive for two reasons. First, suppose that you are successful in impressing and attracting your date with your antics. What happens later when you let your guard down and revert to being yourself? You will be unmasked as not being the person your date was attracted to, and revealed as a phony beside.
The even more unfortunate situation occurs when your date is not attracted to your contrived persona, but would have loved the real you. What a huge loss to be on a date with the man or woman of your dreams and never even recognize them or have them recognize you because each of you were so busy play-acting.
What to do:
1. Clear the air. Before your first date, or on your first date at the latest, announce that you are going to relax and be yourself, and invite your date to be himself or herself as well. Some dates won't know what to make of that invitation, but the person you really want in your life will respond with gratitude, and will also relax.
If you are using an on-line dating service, be sure that your profile reflects the real you - without any puffery or distortion of your true qualities. Be proud of who you are, and share your true self. Have the "clear the air" conversation before you meet in person.
2. Choose relaxed places for your first few dates. There are environments that foster play-acting, and there are those that support each of you in being yourself. Choose the latter.
3. Ask for feedback. Dating is often a time for playing the guessing game as well as the play-acting game. Don't guess, ask how your date is feeling, what they want to do or not do. Give your date the same consideration as you would give a good friend.
4. Just remember to relax and be yourself. You will enjoy your date more - and you will create an opening for a wonderful long-term relationship with someone who likes the real you.
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Monday, January 5, 2009
I Love You Just the Way You Are
Happiness lies in accepting everyone in our lives EXACTLY as they are. We cause ourselves untold misery whenever we believe others to be imperfect and try to change them. This is the number one rule for a happy relationship.Read my articles on relationships:
The "Spousal We" and 6 Other Ways to Leave Your Lover
How to Know When "Mister Right" is Mister Wrong - 7 Keys to a Great Relationship
Beyond the Grief of Divorce - 7 Steps Toward New Beginnings
Most of the Dating Advice You Have Read is Dead Wrong
A Man’s Guide to Online Dating After Divorce
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