Sunday, December 13, 2009
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Forgiveness and Acceptance - Keys to a Great Marriage
If you have lived in the same home for years, you probably have a lot of stuff stored away. However neatly packed, anything you haven't put to good use for more than a year is probably a burden rather than a blessing. In a similar way, you likely have old stuff tucked away in the corners of your marriage. It is wonderful to dust off your great memories to reminisce and enjoy, but what about the old resentments and perceived affronts?
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Saturday, May 9, 2009
Friday, May 1, 2009
How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love
Do people actually fall in love with the idea of being in love? Unfortunately, it is actually quite common.See the original article at
How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
The #1 Secret of Great Relationships
Behind all the issues that separate an ordinary relationship from a great one, is one common factor. Behind all the truly helpful advice on improving your life together, there lies one key to a great relationship.
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The #1 Secret of Great Relationships
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The #1 Secret of Great Relationships
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Meddling - 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Offering Helpful Advice
Meddling - 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Offering Helpful Advice
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Again, I found myself meddling in the affairs of others. All too often my intention to be supportive and generous runs amok. In the aftermath, I tell myself that I will never do that again, but I do. Actually, I wouldn't want it any other way. The line between "helpful" and meddling is so easy to cross.
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Meddling - 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Offering Helpful Advice
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Again, I found myself meddling in the affairs of others. All too often my intention to be supportive and generous runs amok. In the aftermath, I tell myself that I will never do that again, but I do. Actually, I wouldn't want it any other way. The line between "helpful" and meddling is so easy to cross.
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Meddling - 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Offering Helpful Advice
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Flirting Is Advertising Yourself - Apply These 8 Advertising Secrets To Your Dating Success
Flirting Is Advertising Yourself - Apply These 8 Advertising Secrets To Your Dating Success
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Advertisers use sex to sell products. Turn the tables by applying the secrets of product marketing, advertising and sales to your dating success.
Your every action is an advertisement of yourself. Be conscious of how you are presenting yourself, and gain that special somebody by following these tips:
1. Create a powerful and balanced ad. Begin with an aggressive opening and follow up with in-depth informative facts that both prove your point and are fully forthcoming. The first step in dating is to gain someone's attention - that's your headline - make it bold and powerful. Once you have grabbed their attention, drop the hyperbole, and communicate with scrupulously honesty - focusing on the relevant information, and avoiding distracting facts and stories.
2. Address the prospect's priorities. Reducing fear is everyone's highest priority, followed by meeting needs, then benefits, and finally features. For a car, examples of these four are: crash resistant, reliable, smooth shifting, and planar-inset transmission. For a man or woman seeking a partner, examples might be: committed, loving, sexy, and 38DD.
3. Play on both your prospect's emotions and on their needs. Generate excitement, but don't forget to address the practical also.
4. Emphasize convenience. You are here and now - take advantage of that
5. Offer real honest value. The huckster may make a sale, but the product will be returned. Good will is vital and irreplaceable.
6. Utilize testimonials. Having your friends speak on your behalf is surprisingly convincing
7. Create a call to action. Your objective is the "close" - the sale. Keep the end in mind.
8. Test and refine your ad campaign. When you meet with failure, change your tactic and try again, but never give up.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Advertisers use sex to sell products. Turn the tables by applying the secrets of product marketing, advertising and sales to your dating success.Your every action is an advertisement of yourself. Be conscious of how you are presenting yourself, and gain that special somebody by following these tips:
1. Create a powerful and balanced ad. Begin with an aggressive opening and follow up with in-depth informative facts that both prove your point and are fully forthcoming. The first step in dating is to gain someone's attention - that's your headline - make it bold and powerful. Once you have grabbed their attention, drop the hyperbole, and communicate with scrupulously honesty - focusing on the relevant information, and avoiding distracting facts and stories.
2. Address the prospect's priorities. Reducing fear is everyone's highest priority, followed by meeting needs, then benefits, and finally features. For a car, examples of these four are: crash resistant, reliable, smooth shifting, and planar-inset transmission. For a man or woman seeking a partner, examples might be: committed, loving, sexy, and 38DD.
3. Play on both your prospect's emotions and on their needs. Generate excitement, but don't forget to address the practical also.
4. Emphasize convenience. You are here and now - take advantage of that
5. Offer real honest value. The huckster may make a sale, but the product will be returned. Good will is vital and irreplaceable.
6. Utilize testimonials. Having your friends speak on your behalf is surprisingly convincing
7. Create a call to action. Your objective is the "close" - the sale. Keep the end in mind.
8. Test and refine your ad campaign. When you meet with failure, change your tactic and try again, but never give up.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Online Dating After Divorce - A Man’s Guide to Seeking Women, Finding Love, and Getting Married Again
Online Dating After Divorce - A Man’s Guide to Seeking Women, Finding Love, and Getting Married Again
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
You say you are looking for your next long term relationship - this time a really great lifelong partnership - but you are horny and you want to get laid - soon. STOP! That attitude is NOT going to lead you to a great long term relationship. Bank the fires of lust long enough to search consciously for someone with whom you are truly compatible.
Read more at
Online Dating after Divorce (a man's guide)
Stop Anger Before It Stops You - 7 Secrets
Stop Anger Before It Stops You - 7 Secrets
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Being angry is as close as a human being can come to experiencing hell on earth. - jlh
Anger is something that each one of us has experienced - some of us only occasionally, some almost daily. Can we eliminate all anger? Probably not.
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Stop Anger Before It Stops You
How to be Happy - 7 Secrets for a Happy Life
How to be Happy - 7 Secrets for a Happy Life
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Happiness is not something anyone else can give us... or take away from us. Happiness is what we make of our lives... or don't. Whatever our circumstances, we can create a joyful life... or a miserable life. It is up to us.
Read the rest of my article atHow to be Happy - 7 Secrets for a Happy Life
How To Use Valentine's Day To Reconnect With A Past Lover - 5 Tips
How To Use Valentine's Day To Reconnect With A Past Lover - 5 Tips
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Valentine's Day, the day we celebrate romantic love. Is there anyone who can say "Valentine's Day" without feeling a little twinge - memories of past loves, regrets of opportunities missed, hopes and fears for future relationships. This is a holiday that brings out our happiest and our saddest emotions. When one is fully engaged in a fresh vibrant and loving relationship, this is a day of joy and wonderment, but when one is between relationships - especially if one is still in grief over a lost partnership - this can be a day of torment. "Why me? Why am I the one without a lover today, of all days?" we say as if there were no one else without a true passionate love on this day of hearts and flowers.
Can there be anything good about being alone during the Valentine season? Perhaps there is. If you really want to reconnect with a past lover, and they are also without a partner at this time, consider using the spirit of Valentine's Day as an opportunity to win them back.
No one wants to be alone on Valentine's day - take advantage of this. Put aside for a time your own sadness and loneliness, in order to focus fully on the emotions and needs of your ex-partner. However badly being alone on this holiday makes you feel, rest assured that they also feel an emptiness during this season.
As you attempt to reconnect around a Valentine's Day theme, try these suggestions:
1. Always be kind, emotionally generous, and supportive in all your interactions. Recognize that this is a very difficult holiday for them also, and that they will be wary of your intentions.
2. Never complain to them about your own loneliness. Be the strong one who is offering emotional support to the other. Always appear self-possessed - never pathetic or needy.
3. Don't ask, just assume that they will be feeling lonely as Valentine's Day approaches. If you ask if they are feeling lonely, you will likely receive the stiff-upper-lip response that they are "doing just fine, thank you," and you will have lost a few points.
4. Suggest going on a strictly platonic date "for old time's sake." Recollect your great memories from Valentines Days when you were together, and remind your ex-lover of the great Valentine's Days you used to have.
5. Be all out romantic. Give their favorite flowers, candy, and treats. Write a sappy love poem - with specific references to happy times you spent together.
Give it a try. Even if you don't regain them as a lover, they may become your best friend.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Valentine's Day, the day we celebrate romantic love. Is there anyone who can say "Valentine's Day" without feeling a little twinge - memories of past loves, regrets of opportunities missed, hopes and fears for future relationships. This is a holiday that brings out our happiest and our saddest emotions. When one is fully engaged in a fresh vibrant and loving relationship, this is a day of joy and wonderment, but when one is between relationships - especially if one is still in grief over a lost partnership - this can be a day of torment. "Why me? Why am I the one without a lover today, of all days?" we say as if there were no one else without a true passionate love on this day of hearts and flowers.Can there be anything good about being alone during the Valentine season? Perhaps there is. If you really want to reconnect with a past lover, and they are also without a partner at this time, consider using the spirit of Valentine's Day as an opportunity to win them back.
No one wants to be alone on Valentine's day - take advantage of this. Put aside for a time your own sadness and loneliness, in order to focus fully on the emotions and needs of your ex-partner. However badly being alone on this holiday makes you feel, rest assured that they also feel an emptiness during this season.
As you attempt to reconnect around a Valentine's Day theme, try these suggestions:
1. Always be kind, emotionally generous, and supportive in all your interactions. Recognize that this is a very difficult holiday for them also, and that they will be wary of your intentions.
2. Never complain to them about your own loneliness. Be the strong one who is offering emotional support to the other. Always appear self-possessed - never pathetic or needy.
3. Don't ask, just assume that they will be feeling lonely as Valentine's Day approaches. If you ask if they are feeling lonely, you will likely receive the stiff-upper-lip response that they are "doing just fine, thank you," and you will have lost a few points.
4. Suggest going on a strictly platonic date "for old time's sake." Recollect your great memories from Valentines Days when you were together, and remind your ex-lover of the great Valentine's Days you used to have.
5. Be all out romantic. Give their favorite flowers, candy, and treats. Write a sappy love poem - with specific references to happy times you spent together.
Give it a try. Even if you don't regain them as a lover, they may become your best friend.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Powerful Flirting Tips From an Unlikely Source - Apply These 13 Product Marketing Secrets To Your Dating Success
Powerful Flirting Tips From an Unlikely Source - Apply These 13 Product Marketing Secrets To Your Dating Success
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
What do product marketing, advertising and sales techniques have to do with your dating success? A lot more than you might guess.
Learn and apply these techniques to gain dating success:
1. Work from a plan, rather than just tactics. Be clear what you want and how you intend to get it before you begin.
2. Know your customer, your audience, your market. You are just shooting in the dark if you haven't determined who you are targeting. Be very clear exactly what sort of person you want to attract before you start advertising yourself.
3. Understand that people buy for selfish reasons. No one in their right mind is going to date you out of compassion. They will date you (buy your product) because they want something that you (your product) offer.
4. Determine your prospective customer's needs, and meet those needs. Pain avoidance is a much stronger motivation than pleasure seeking. People are more strongly driven by fear and need than by a quest for greater happiness. Identify and target your prospective partner's needs rather than his or her wants. Loneliness and insecurity are examples of needs that you can focus on meeting.
5. Create a powerful brand image that conveys a clear concise message. Think about Nike as an example. Nike's image is not sneakers, shoes, or even running shoes - Nike's image is healthy active engaging people in action. Apply this principle to your own "brand." What images and ideas do you want people to associate with you? Craft your own image, and live into it.
6. Be unique - don't copy your competitors - don't compare yourself to your competitors. While it is extremely common for low quality advertisers to declare their product cheaper, faster, sexier than their competition, the most successful companies (and daters) just pretend they don't even have competition - and in a sense, they don't. Again, think Nike. To the extent that they are selling an image rather than shoes, they truly aren't in competition with shoe companies. How are you uniquely special? Be proud of your unique qualities.
7. Believe in your product, don't fake enthusiasm. If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?
8. Love your customer, not your product - make their life better. If they feel loved and well served, they will buy your product.
9. Offer a free sample or trial but don't give away the store.
10. Build on "yes." Start with a small "yes," and move to bigger ones. "Yes, I'll be your friend," comes before and leads into a bigger "yes," and a yet bigger "yes."
11. Save price for last, but never forget that this is a sale, not a give-away. Remember to focus on the "close."
12. Use multiple channels to deliver your message. Don't rely solely on just face-to-face contact, or even on just word-of-mouth. Teaming with supportive friends can make the project easier and more pleasant. Also consider on-line dating and other resources. You don't have to do this alone.
13. Patience - persistence - perseverance. Stay in action, never give up. Sales of any kind is hard work. Selling yourself is no easier. They will come, they will stay. Believe in yourself and in your mission.
Never become so absorbed in chasing someone that you forget to maintain your standards. Don't catch someone you don't really want. Someone who is lonely and insecure is an easy catch, but are you sure you really want them?
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
What do product marketing, advertising and sales techniques have to do with your dating success? A lot more than you might guess.Learn and apply these techniques to gain dating success:
1. Work from a plan, rather than just tactics. Be clear what you want and how you intend to get it before you begin.
2. Know your customer, your audience, your market. You are just shooting in the dark if you haven't determined who you are targeting. Be very clear exactly what sort of person you want to attract before you start advertising yourself.
3. Understand that people buy for selfish reasons. No one in their right mind is going to date you out of compassion. They will date you (buy your product) because they want something that you (your product) offer.
4. Determine your prospective customer's needs, and meet those needs. Pain avoidance is a much stronger motivation than pleasure seeking. People are more strongly driven by fear and need than by a quest for greater happiness. Identify and target your prospective partner's needs rather than his or her wants. Loneliness and insecurity are examples of needs that you can focus on meeting.
5. Create a powerful brand image that conveys a clear concise message. Think about Nike as an example. Nike's image is not sneakers, shoes, or even running shoes - Nike's image is healthy active engaging people in action. Apply this principle to your own "brand." What images and ideas do you want people to associate with you? Craft your own image, and live into it.
6. Be unique - don't copy your competitors - don't compare yourself to your competitors. While it is extremely common for low quality advertisers to declare their product cheaper, faster, sexier than their competition, the most successful companies (and daters) just pretend they don't even have competition - and in a sense, they don't. Again, think Nike. To the extent that they are selling an image rather than shoes, they truly aren't in competition with shoe companies. How are you uniquely special? Be proud of your unique qualities.
7. Believe in your product, don't fake enthusiasm. If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?
8. Love your customer, not your product - make their life better. If they feel loved and well served, they will buy your product.
9. Offer a free sample or trial but don't give away the store.
10. Build on "yes." Start with a small "yes," and move to bigger ones. "Yes, I'll be your friend," comes before and leads into a bigger "yes," and a yet bigger "yes."
11. Save price for last, but never forget that this is a sale, not a give-away. Remember to focus on the "close."
12. Use multiple channels to deliver your message. Don't rely solely on just face-to-face contact, or even on just word-of-mouth. Teaming with supportive friends can make the project easier and more pleasant. Also consider on-line dating and other resources. You don't have to do this alone.
13. Patience - persistence - perseverance. Stay in action, never give up. Sales of any kind is hard work. Selling yourself is no easier. They will come, they will stay. Believe in yourself and in your mission.
Never become so absorbed in chasing someone that you forget to maintain your standards. Don't catch someone you don't really want. Someone who is lonely and insecure is an easy catch, but are you sure you really want them?
Friday, January 23, 2009
Your Marriage is in Trouble - Is a Trial Separation the Way to Go? 10 Reasons Why and Why Not - Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Your Marriage is in Trouble - Is a Trial Separation the Way to Go? 10 Reasons Why and Why Not
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Your relationship has gotten so bad that you are talking about divorce - when you are talking at all. Should you consider a trial separation? Why and why not.
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Trial Separation
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Is Your Relationship In Danger? Take This 10 Question Quiz To Find Out
Is Your Relationship In Danger? Take This 10 Question Quiz To Find Out
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
You have the occasional argument. Sometimes you feel frustrated, and you have that uneasy sense that everything is not as it should be. Is your relationship in trouble? The answer may not be obvious. Take this quiz to measure the overall state of your relationship and highlight the trouble spots.
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Is Your Relationship in Danger? Take This 10 Question Quiz to Find Out
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Should You Try to Get Your Ex Back? When to Rekindle the Romance and When to Walk Away - 10 Questions You Need to Ask
Should You Try to Get Your Ex Back? When to Rekindle the Romance and When to Walk Away - 10 Questions You Need to Ask- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
They left. You're lonely, and they look pretty good right now. Should you attempt to rekindle the romance? Let's look at when to try and when to walk away. Ask yourself these 10 questions.
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Should You Try to Get Your Ex Back
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Trying to Get Your Ex Back? A Look at the 10 Best and Worst Ways to Rekindle the Romance
Trying to Get Your Ex Back? A Look at the 10 Best and Worst Ways to Rekindle the Romance- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
They left. You're lonely, and they look pretty good right now. Should you even attempt to rekindle the romance? What are the best and worst ways to rebuild your connection?Read the rest of my article at
How to Get Your Ex Back
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